Monday, December 12, 2005

i'm a feminist

i really believe that women should have the ultimate say over their own lives. i think nobody should boss them around and nobody should think lowly of them. i believe women should not be treated equal in matters of strength, but we should all be pleasantly surprised when they are stonger. i beleive women should have the right to refuse to do anything dirty, vulgar or overly masculine, but if they choose to, they should not be called a butch. i beleive women have the right of having their mortgage and bills paid by their husbands who are loyal and faithful and never put them down. i believe women have the right to quit their jobs when a career much more noble and important comes along, that being the career of motherhood. i believe women have the right to be the primary caregivers to their own children and have complete control on how they are raised. some women will ask for more than this and blame the male race as their oppressors. they are afraid of becoming dependant on a man. the are afraid of accepting their role in society. it is not supiriority we need, not even equality, it is differential treatment.

7 comments:

elisabeth said...

I really hate it when women think that being a stay-at-home mom is oppresive.

Seaneria said...

I think "equality" is often a lofty goal. Conditions will never be "equil" to start with...biologically speaking equality doesn't exist. I prefer a model that builds on the strengths of individually powerfull beings, male or female. Lifes too short to worry about what others can do that I can't... I'd rather focus on what I can do and do it well. This is not another coal for the opressors oven but a comment on construct of "equality"...a hypothetical construct at best. I love the Native American people and work closely with many of them, but it is my opinion that the drive for equality is destroying their beautifully unique culture. I think that this is not a singular phenomina as well and think it applies to any one too narrow minded to emphasize what individual contributions they can make rather than worrying about what the guy next door is doing.

phyllis sweetwater said...

i changed my wording a bit because i agree with you sean. it's like handicapped parking. Does it tick you off that you cant use that first parking stall? If we were all treated equally then anyone should be able to use it right? of course the answer is we need to think about others needs. I like the term "special needs" and I also like the term "specific needs". we all have them.

phyllis sweetwater said...

elizabeth, it's amazing how many people do think motherhood is oppressing. it's hard sometimes to raise above that stigma. Where would any of us be? Where would society be? Why is the government trying to provide more money for day care when they should be encouraging mothers to stay at home WITH THEIR CHILDREN.

elisabeth said...

the conservative party(i think its the conservatives) is promising that, if elected, they will give similar benefits to women who do stay at home with their children. their idea is supposed to solve the daycare problem. it's an election promise so who knows where it will go.

eyun said...

Well said. I think what turns most people off about feminism is what Benjamin Hoff refers to (in the Te of Piglet) as the Amazon Woman type of feminism (paraphrased). The ones who try to take feminism so far that they actually assume the traditional role of oppressive masculinism.

Dagga said...

I agree Phyllis with your sentiment but it can be a difficult for some women to accept.
Equality is a state of mind.
My mother, a feminist and a hippy flowerchild is a wonderful woman. She brought me up to be a feminist and belive in equality for all. Her ideas and mine on feminisim are sometimes very diffrent. When she was younger it was a betrayal to say that men and women where diffrent. I belive on the other hand that it is the right of women to be diffrent to men and still be equal. But maybe the older generation had to be agressive and exagerated so that we can show the world that diffrent is still equal.